Losing a loved one is a heart wrenching experience
to say the least.
Although finding the strength to move on with one's
life after such an experience takes time, it can be
Gratitude is wonderful for helping to overcome
grief. Be grateful for the love you had, the
experiences you shared, what you currently have
in your life, and what will be in the future.
The closer the connection, the more difficult the
separation, but it helps to realize that everyone has
more than one soul mate. Some are more compatible
than others, but all are meant to enter and leave your
life when they do, meaning all relationships appear to
be spiritually contracted, including the length of time
to be spent together. Expectations of "growing old"
with a partner are the norm in our society, but in
many cases it's not meant to be.
As we wrote in our book Your Love Life and
Reincarnation, published in 2002, almost all
relationships include karmic ties. In other words,
one person owes the other, they both owe each other
and their connection is necessary for growth and
payback, or a similar situation exists. Perhaps there is
unfinished business or the two souls agreed, before
incarnating, to reunite in order to learn some lessons or
accomplish a certain goal.
For someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, we
would like to suggest a new outlook. In our Nov. 10th,
2006 column titled Redefining How You Perceive New
Love Interests, we recommend viewing love interests
as opportunities for growth and allowing them to be
what they're meant to be, rather than all or nothing, or
assuming they'll be "the one" for life. Such an outlook
eases the difficulty of accepting what is and what is to
be, that which you can't change.
Loss can be devastating, but at least with this
perspective, it can be easier to digest when it doesn't
work out as it "should have." Although that seems to
deflate romantic notions of "forever," know that love
really is forever on a spiritual level, not on this physical
plane. It's helpful to view soul progression in lifetimes,
not just one existence, as each soul has an agenda that
stretches throughout time.
That brings us to the popular phrase, "love of your
life." Perhaps "love of your life so far" or "one of the
loves of your life" are much more appropriate since
you haven't lived your entire life and met all the
potential love interests yet. This way of thinking does
not diminish what you had with past loves since every
relationship is different, and you may have a lot to
look forward to no matter what your age.
Is a lost love destined? Is feeling a deep sense of loss
a natural part of personal fate? We believe so, since
the comprehensive astrology and numerology charts
clearly indicate unions and separations, among other
circumstances. Most experience the loss of love at one
time or another. It may be someone they didn't know
that well, someone with whom they were involved
for years, or even someone they are still involved with
but the spark has died for one or both.
From a spiritual perspective, feeling a sense of loss
serves any number of purposes, including, but not
limited to the following: it allows you to appreciate
more what you had (and will have again); it allows
you to experience first-hand the cyclical nature of life;
and in some cases, it may even allow you to balance
the scales of karma for the loss others experienced
due to your actions in the past. But don't feel guilty
over the possibility of past life negative actions as
long as you are "doing the right thing" in all
situations during this life.
For those who lost a love that may have seemed like
"the one," even though you never had the chance to
come together, this type of love loss can also be
upsetting, especially if there is a strong past life
connection. Perhaps you met and spent time together
at work or on vacation. Although the connection has
run its course, you still think about the person a lot.
However, if you had spent more time together, you
may have realized that the person only represented
what you wanted or felt you needed in your love life.
"What could have been" may have been more of a
fantasy. The time spent together was all that was
meant to be, for now, maybe, in part, to further
establish a link to be continued on a much deeper
level the next time around. Remember, the spiritual
reasons for the events in your life may seem illogical,
and the fated outcome is often at odds with plans,
expectations, and hopes.
For those who lost a very compatible and rewarding
relationship, past life regression is a great tool to
return to a lifetime where you were also together in
a loving relationship, and even to a future lifetime
(through future progression) when you'll have the
opportunity to love each other again. It will also help
to calm your mind and heart to realize this lifetime is
just a part of a long tapestry of love.
For those who had to leave a relationship due to
dangerous circumstances, such as abuse, alcoholism
or drugs, but still cannot seem to let go of the person,
cut the spiritual ties that bind. Consciously and visually
surround yourself with White Light, cut any cords
connecting you and the other person, and fill the empty
places where the cords were with White Light. Do
this daily until you feel the effects and ask for spiritual
help in the process, from whomever you pray to. Let
go of them and any anger the best you can.
Forgiveness will heal you and help you move on.
Every relationship is different and even though
grieving for a lost love isn't easy, know that there
may be a future lover waiting in the wings for a
relationship that is even better than you have ever
imagined. But dwelling on "what could have been"
or your loss will not help to usher in a happier
Also know that, based on past life regression
research, you have likely loved hundreds of times
or more in hundreds, if not thousands (or many
more) of past lives. It's also possible that you will
be with that person in a future life, in one way or
another, when the timing is better for both of you.
In the mean time, let go of this person the best you
can. This will not release the memory of them from
your life or the possibility of being together again,
but remove them as a potential block in your
current love life.
Copyright © Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo
Scott Petullo and Stephen Petullo are identical twins and have been exploring metaphysics since the early 1980’s. They are experts in the fields of prediction, personal fate, love life, and past life regression, and are natural psychics and mediums. Get their free report: 13 Spiritual and New Age Myths and 11 Questions to Ask before hiring Psychic.
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